Lecture room: Oddi – 202. Click for a map.
Abstract
Some years ago I was invited to a radio program to speak about the theme “Do we have to reconcile with our parents?” The program got a lot of reactions from people afterwards and I got telephone calls from many grownups that wanted to come to therapy with me together with their parent. The oldest “child” was 48 – she came with her nearly 80 years old mother. The journalist for the radio program, Ulrika Hjalmarsson – Neideman, and I decided to write a book about the topic. The book came 2014 and it seemed like the topic still engaged a lot of people because we talked about the book in television and quite a few magazines. Do we have to reconcile with our parents? No – but we have to reconcile with our childhood. The word “reconciliation” have different meanings but one of them is: Choosing to stop the battle. We need to find a way to stop the battle – otherwise we will go on loosing energy to a past that doesn’t always want to deal with us. There are two different kinds of reconciliation – forgiveness that require another person who understands that we were hurt and will do the best never to let it happen again. This is for a lot of reasons not always possible. Than the inner reconciliation is an alternative. In this presentation I will talk about: